Physically okay, mentally confused today. Normal shit, just wondering where my life is going…

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34 Responses to 2018-05-24

  1. Steve says:

    Mentally confused? You can be so cryptic. Work still getting you down?

    Debbie called to report a missing feed bucket this morning.. the Brown was guilty, as the full bucket was under the carport. That boy…

    We introduced Murphy and Phinney last night. Debbie decided Murphy is socially inept as he was licking he brother. After Phinney decided he wasn’t about to be bitten, he ignored him. Odd boy.

    Ready for the weekend!!


    • I may have added a little enlightenment as you were typing. Just confused with all aspects of my life; not sure where I am currently, nor what my goals are any longer.

    • Barb says:

      so, Murphy is your new horse? are you boarding one for Katherine too?

      • Steve says:

        Murphy is “co-owned” by Debbie and Katherine. Yes, he’s the new boy, and the current favorite at the barn- not just Debbie.

  2. Barb says:

    I have a headache today.
    But – I have a massage tonight, so that may help. (but its a massage, how can it not help).
    got a FB message from Zoltan (Weenie) looking for a tap for a keg for Yargo. We aren’t going, and I don’t think Allan wants to lend his out. I guess I need to answer that request.

    • Keeping my fingers crossed for the weather forecast to change for the better. I really want to camp…

      • Barb says:

        I hate to say I want it to rain, but we have new sod.
        So, hopefully it will rain to the NW of Atlanta, and not to the NE of Atlanta.
        How about that?
        We may come out to Black Sheep Sunday, its in Auburn, somewhere not to far from Yargo.

    • Stacy says:

      Barb, where do you get massages? I haven’t had one in a long time and it sounds amazing right now!

      Oh it’s definitely going to rain on me this weekend. I’m sure of it. But even a rainy day at the beach is still better than no day at the beach. 🙂

      • Barb says:

        Stacy – my friend Sue – who has a place up in Woodstock = Healing Palms. But – we do house calls – so she comes to the house. then she stays for dinner after. (dinner gets us a discounted house call rate). We even bought a massage table, so she doesn’t have to lug hers.
        We could plan an afternoon/evening sometime – get on her schedule.

      • ITP Lurker says:

        Barb’s option sounds lovely. Let me chime in with another option closer to home: http://www.futureperfectmassage.com. They’re in Cabbagetown. I’ve been getting regular massages for a couple of years now, and OMG has it changed my life, both my relationship with my body, and my relationship with my goddamn brain. 😉

        • Barb says:

          we don’t get them on a regular enough basis, but luckily Sue keeps us somewhat on a schedule. And – after Allan’s motorcycle accident – she’s been really on him to keep on a schedule.

          • ITP Lurker says:

            With good reason. I always shrugged off massage as being a luxury thing for other people, but there is so much therapeutic value, especially when one is recovering.

          • Stacy says:

            Oh I actually have a dear girlfriend who has her own practice too, but haven’t gone to her in years. I just messaged her to see if she’s still doing it and she is. 🙂 But I do also like your idea of a “massage afternoon” too!

  3. ITP Lurker says:

    There’s an old adage, “how do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.” It sounds to me like you’re thinking you can change *everything* about your life, *all at once*. That’s not possible, so a circuit breaker is flipping off on your brain.

    I spent three years in the Navy many moons ago, and one metaphor has always stuck with me. When a big ship is out in the ocean, you have to turn the “steering wheel” for a while before you eventually see a change in course start to take effect. Yes, ships do have steering wheels, but much smaller than cars.

    Regardless, try to pick one thing that you can control. Like making a decision to stay or go with your house. Given the market, you can pack your shit and unload that thing at a good price fast without lifting a finger on repairs. That window won’t last forever. Get your house off of your plate, and then that will free up an incredible amount of bandwidth for what you want to tackle next. Or decide to stay in your house, and start fixing it up. You may think you’re saving money by not initiating repairs, but you’re paying in other ways instead. There’s such an emotional toll that we can’t measure, which leads us to be paralyzed. Hence the term analysis-paralysis. Momentum is your friend here, find something about your life that you can start eking some momentum with, and one day you’ll look up and be surprised. There’s no magic wands here, just good old fashioned elbow grease.

    • Steve says:

      Preach it, Rev!

    • Stacy says:

      Oh goodness, such great advice in here! And I don’t mean just for Paulie. I love the ship analogy. And the “take one thing at a time” advice. Sure does make things so much less overwhelming!

      A good friend of mine suffers from anxiety and depression and I’m going to share this with her too. “When a big ship is out in the ocean, you have to turn the “steering wheel” for a while before you eventually see a change in course start to take effect.” 🙂

    • Barb says:

      Lurker is a wise man.
      And seriously – repairs suck (as does yard work) but if you do them, you do feel so much better after its all over.
      Allan’s parents were marveling what that section of sod in their backyard has done for them – they were saying – now we need a grill – its so nice out here!!!! They didn’t really say that after the patio was done, but the grass has made it seem so much more complete.

      • ITP Lurker says:

        Repairs and yard work provide so much instant gratification that it’s just unbelievable. It’s a good way to get a wave of momentum going, and then suddenly you look up and you’re sodding *someone else’s yard* in addition to your own. 😉 😉 😉

        Seriously, well-played on the rain/sod installation. That’s a bit of clean living on your guys part.

        • Barb says:

          well – his dad paid for the additional labor for ours & their yard – so basically we just ordered the sod & paid for our pallets. Allan said the extra 2 guys (and he didn’t say me not there complaining) made it a much better day!

    • ITP Lurker says:

      Thank you, you guys. Your feedback means a lot to me. Stacy, I’m especially touched that you’re passing the ship metaphor along to your friend who is struggling.

      I have indeed accumulated some hard-fought knowledge. Life is very much not a straight line, and I’m OK with that now. Plus I’m realizing that it’s much better to be able to make course corrections later in life when we have more money (usually) and more experience, and hence better ability to effect change, once we decide what it is we want. When we’re younger we just don’t know what we don’t know.

      Another phrase I live by is from the late Stephen Covey: “Fast is slow, and slow is fast.” He used that with regard to managing relationships with others, but it applies to so much in life. Trying to fix everything *NOW* just makes us do knee-jerk things that push us further backwards down the hill. Slow is indeed fast. I’m experiencing that.

      • Debbie Brady says:

        I use the how to eat an elephant adage all the time. Pick a spot and get to work and soon enough things begin to seem manageable.

        At the Brockett house, I had a leaky roof that caused me untold amounts of stress because it most impacted the beautiful wood ceiling in the sunroom installed courtesy of HGTV. My brother would patch it, but then another leak would develop. When I finally bit the bullet and got quotes and had the roof replaced, I was really mad at myself for not doing it sooner. The relief of not worrying about it any longer was immense.

        I know you didn’t ask Paulie, but I’ll echo Lurker – put that house on the market! It weighs you down in ways you’ll never appreciate until you move away. If I didn’t have a consuming fondness for too many animals, I’d choose the condo or townhouse route in a hot minute. Go for it man!

        Really annoyed with the forecast this weekend. May scoot out early today to take advantage of a dry-ish evening to ride.

  4. I need to go to the Amazon store on 5th today. Unfortunately my blistered foot, which is healing slowly, isn’t going to allow me to walk from “XYZ Corp” today.

    • Steve says:

      There are scooters around if you have the app (which I would have listed here, but have forgotten the name of the company). I read an interesting article about the folks that charge the scooters.

      • The company is called Bird. I’m not sure I want to be one of the “scooter people”. 🙂 Besides, it might be just as cheap for me to pay to park after work.

      • Stacy says:

        ohmygoodness, I saw about a half dozen folks on them BIRDs during my walk last night! Looks kind of fun, but knowing me, I’d fall off. 🙂

  5. Barb says:

    You can rent scooters???? how fun!!!!
    let’s all go do it.

    • Yeah, I see people scootering on the sidewalks all around midtown.

    • ITP Lurker says:

      If anyone needs a side-gig, you can collect the scooters up at night, take them home and charge them, and put them in designated spots the next day. Bird pays $5 to $20 per scooter, apparently based on how hard they are to find.

      Rental is $1 plus 15 cents per minute. They look fun, but I sure have seen people pushing them on the Beltline. Maybe because they’re being law-abiding and following the rules of no motorized vehicles?

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