I try to be a man of my word; I take pride in that. Yesterday was supposed to end this blog; I really meant it. But you all have convinced me to continue, and besides, without a job I can’t afford a shrink so this will have to serve as “therapy”.
I am still reeling from this blow; for those of you who hadn’t heard or figured it out, I was trying to get a job with MailChimp. By chance I saw one of my now-not-going-to-be-coworkers at an iOS meetup last night, and he was surprised to hear that I didn’t get the job. Just like the many times a woman has deemed that I am not “the one”, I am closing this case and moving on. With time this wound, as the many that have previously been (self-)inflicted, will heal and will most likely leave a scar that I will carry to my end. However, I must go on.
So today? Don’t know what to make of today. I know that I will be swinging by Big Nerd Ranch to get the iOS programming book I won last week. From there I will be going to LA Fitness to burn off some anxiety and hopefully a little fat as well.
And the future? Don’t know what to make of that either. I will need a job. I do not wish to return to the rigors of the commute that I had prior to starting my hiatus, which I know limits my options. I know that I am now considering moving away, starting a new life elsewhere. Therefore in addition to practicing coding this weekend I will be spending time gathering possessions to get rid of in order to make relocating easier.
I may be back here on Monday. I am still working things out…
Paulie
well – I’m glad you posted this morning.
I totally understand why you are bummed out – that job & location did seem like a great fit. But – you never know, maybe they will reconsider & call you back again. Or, for the next opening. I really need to actually start working on looking for a new job mtself, I just never really have had to do the real job search, most of my jobs have sort of fallen into my lap. So, I don’t really know how to look for a job, or really, how to answer the interview questions. But, I need to learn.
I have modest experience in the whole job search deal (resume, networking, interviews, etc.), from both sides of the table. I’ve hired 100’s of folks, and even fired a few. And been interviewed a few times, with good and not so good results. Happy to lend whatever hand I can. Maybe a brief get together (coffee, cold beer, etc.) as part of any “Paulie’s Board of Directors” meet-up is a good first step.
Like running, training for a big one, losing weight, etc, having a few friends to hold you accountable (or train with) can be helpful. I know it is for me.
BTW: the Make Three Lists deal is really easier than it sounds. Like anything in Life, you get out proportionate to what you put in.
JG/HamWithCam
HamWithCam at gmail.com
Great title today!
Happy to see you are pressing on!
Welcome back.
This too shall pass.
Don’t close this chapter, until you ping your network and figure out what happened. Nothing is a failure if you at least learn something from it.
Make Three Lists, throw yourself into your search anew, set new goals (we always hit that at which we aim, so aim high), engage your network fully this time, and make sure to have lots of fun along the way.
I really do think Harry Chapin said it best:
“It’s got to be the going, not the getting there…that’s good.” (“Greyhound”)
“Make it a nice day…”
JG/HamWithCam
https://www.flickr.com/photos/hamwithcam/
I’m open for lunch
Can’t today, I am ensconced at the Decatur Library and am going to LA Fitness afterward.
Glad to “see” you out and about. And what HwC said. We are your network, board, and overseers. Let us help you.
While I should be on a plane at this very moment, instead I’m reclining at home. The fates had another place for me to be. Andy is back in ICU after suffering a mild stroke on both sides of his brain. The prognosis is good but it’s still disheartening. We had decided I could proceed with my trip, but when the flight was delayed 3.5 hours, I figured fate was telling me something.
-FP
Damn, very sorry to hear about Andy’s decline.
We will be around tonight & I will be home Saturday night, if you & Debbie – or just Debbie – want to come by.
I was reading the Andy update on FB – sounds like he should be able to work thru this – or at least I hope so.
Weezy, now is the time to get back on Facebook to sell your stuff in the umpteen community virtual yard sale groups. Most have very few rules about what can be posted for sale. It feels a bit safer than Craigslist because you can click on the folks and see if they’re “real” or not. I have bought a buncha stuff from the various neighborhood groups, and I can tell you stuff moves fast on them. Here’s just one for ya, plus you can post in neighboring hoods’ groups too. https://www.facebook.com/groups/267378666625144/?fref=nf
Thanks MC, I will look into that.
Paul – you should just start a new FB, I don’t think you need all the info to start brand new, as trying to re-activate your old page